Each one of us has enormous strength, wisdom and power to overcome whatever life gives us and you are no exception.
The difference between those who succeed and those who don’t is really a question of definition. If you want to be a success than be that. It has nothing to do with how the world defines it or you. In fact I believe we are in desperate need for new rules for success. It has to do with you, how you esteem yourself. Your opinion is the one that counts. And that is in your control. And ultimately its about the person that you become and what you stand for.
John Assaraf, says that what changed his life was when he started to love himself. “So if you alter your beliefs about what you deserve and what is possible for you in life, then the altered beliefs will drive your behavior. To accomplish anything, change your beliefs about what you deserve and what you think you can achieve.”
I also love what he says as follows. “If you’re just interested then you will do what’s convenient; but if you’re committed, then you will be willing to do whatever it takes.”
I believe that follow up and persistence are key, and yes, doing what it takes, given you are always acting out of integrity. That is paramount. I also believe that what we do really matters. So make it count. Never let circumstances and other people determine your destiny.
Jack Canfield, the world’s leading Success Coach has this to say. “That in our desperate drive to be important, to have money, to have fame and power, many of us think that success in life is about accumulating more and more. But it’s not about becoming wealthy, though all of us would love that and it is a part of the game we are playing. The main goal is to gain mastery in life. That is, to acquire wisdom and become more loving. From that, all else flows, allowing us to create what we want in our lives”.
Russell Simmons says “you’re only a failure when you quit”. I used to say, Never Ever Give Up or quit no matter what. I’ve changed my mind about these die hard dictums. I still believe them but I define it differently now. I think it’s important to get feed back and course correct.
Learning the art of pivoting is the art of becoming resilient and strong. You are strong when you get up again and keep on keeping on. And when you keep shooting for the stars. You have only one precious life so why not play full out. It seems I’m always putting myself out on a limb with no safety net. I’ve always tested the power of my convictions by putting it all on the line. Living on the edge is not always a comfortable place to live. But’s it’s the only way I know how.
I love the philosophy Richard Carlson put forward, when he talked about “relaxed passion”, where you don’t wear yourself out with this kind of harsh strident ambition whether its for a just cause or your own glorification and self interest. It’s about doing all that you and then letting go. Your destiny knows it’s own timetable better than you do. What is yours will come to you. It’s taken a lifetime to learn this lesson.
It takes faith and courage to live this way.